I say, true relationship is not physical alone. It should take on more spiritual as well as positive emotional aspects as well. Why positive? Well, simply said, optimism will be your survival key point in grave times.
One plain truth is that people change, like the weather due to multiple factors exists in their surrounding environment. This is pretty much the main problem when it comes to long-distance relationship. It begins with a passionate promise of those lines like ‘this ain’t gonna stop me from loving you..’, but the awful truth is that, people can be easily manipulated by consequences. It’s not impossible for a person to change his or her mind about someone, especially when there are no precaution steps being taken by both parties.
I’m not saying that it’s fruitless or useless to have this kind of relationship. Many couples living in this world do have to go through long distance relationship before they could settled down together and live like a normal family or couples. It’s workable, it’s just that it takes a lot more than typical ‘workout’ in a relationship.
How to survive in a long distance relationship. Just a few ideas :
- Mutual agreement
Before taking the risk of a long distance relationship, you have to honestly ask yourself and your partner these questions. Are you ready for whatever the possibilities may be in store for you in the future, physically and mentally? Are you confident enough to keep your words and promise not to be selfish at all times? It’s definitely not going to be easy. Be realistic, if you or your partner isn’t really into it and have no confidence at all, it’s better to call it off before it gets all ugly and painful.
- Talk time
When you’re ready for a long distance relationship, it also means you’re ready to spend a significant cost on your phone bills. Yea, I know it used to be letters in the olden days but we’re living today, in this modern world isn’t it? Other cheap alternative is by getting an internet connection and chat online on skype or Yahoo Messenger as such. Cyberdating? Well, you can call it that. Not only the bills, you got to make sure to schedule your time for long talks (I’m pretty sure short calls will satiate your partner’s feeling of longing for you). And yes, of course, please do charge that phone, or get a spare battery for back-up.
- Show your sincerity and honesty
You’re honest about this relationship right? Because if you don’t it’ll only be a waste of time, for both you and your partner. Long distance relationship is NOT your ticket to lies and multiple dating scheme. The best way to protect your current relationship is honesty and sincerity. Sure, you can call it a white lie, but here’s the dig: put yourself in your partner’s shoe, would you like to be lied to?
- Scheduling your date
Do this everytime when you have the chance! If it’s too costly to meet your girl or guy every few weeks, do it in one or two months. But you have to meet one another! Seeing is nothing like hearing. Who and what you see standing in front of you sure worth more than pages of love letters or hours of phone calls.
So there you go, a few tips on long distance relationship. It’s you who design your path when it comes to this kind of relationship. So be true to yourself and your partner. Sure you can work things out.
Have a nice day! Ciao~
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Long distance relationships are hard, really hard. I wouldn’t recommend it to everyone, but when it works, it really works. I found my wife on the internet, we got married 1 year and 2 months later and I have to say it’s the best decision I’ve ever made. We have now been together for 2 years and 6 months (but who’s counting?
Phone cards saved our sanity. Got some really cheap ones (I was living in UK at the time and she was living in Indonesia).
Communication is key. We sent an average of 20 sms every day to each other and used technology to it’s fullest to keep in touch.
I hope that whoever initiates a LDR knows they are in for a tough ride and I wish them a wonderful journey in their quest for love.
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October 17th, 2009 at 4:00 pmebazaar Reply:
Wow~ thanks for this comment. Somehow, it ignites me. I guess things are pretty much our choice in the end right? of course there’s fate and all, but we still can make choices and when we choose to make something work, it’ll prolly work out, and when two persons are trying to make it work - eventually it’ll work out for sure! All the best to both of you and may you have a long happy marriage!
Long distant relationship can work, but its very hard, if you really want it, it will happen, you need to be honest and Communication is key. yes you will inquire a large phone bill each month, we used skype, sms every day to each other, and used technology to it’s fullest too, and me being from Chicago USA and she a Indian living in Bangkok Thailand. I thought all was going well for the first 1yr, future plains for marriage and all, until she couldn’t do it any more and drop me like a hot potatoe. It’s painful, but my hats off for the ones who can go threw it and become one.
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